Thursday, February 03, 2005

Valentine's Day - part deux

I got a rather nasty email regarding my Valentine's day post - girls please - don't be so touchy...i obviously hit a nerve with someone - goodness. I was simply saying that it's just a day - and people - especially girls - put such a huge emphasis on it - that to some degree the day loses it's meaning - it's appeal - it's impact - because it's expected - and so much weight is placed on the actions - or lack thereof - of your significant other - that the romantic day that Valentine's day is supposed to be is lost. That this tribute to love (and lust for that matter) is smothered by 'what' someone 'got' you - rather than the thought itself.

Why would you want something that someone didn't wholly want to give you in the first place? OOh - a half-hearted gesture of love...sign me up!

I think i'm just digging a deeper hole, but i'll continue...

Come on girls - buy yourself flowers - and presents - don't wait for someone else to treat you the way you want to be treated - you might be waiting a very long time...I'm tired of consoling my girl friends when something goes wrong - when the boy they're with doesn't fulfill them - well, they have to be fulfilled before they get into a relationship - you can't look for someone to make you whole - you have to do that on your own.


Can you look in the mirror and know, definitively, who you are? Know your worth? Know your own independence? Do you think you're beautiful? Smart? Sexy? The only person who can give you these things is you. You. If you know these things - you know who you are - and if you know who you are - then Valentine's day - and all the trappings that go along with it - doesn't matter - or at least it shouldn't matter 'that' much.

Je suis fini...

K

Oh - and 1 more thing - to the nasty and obviously unhappy girl who sent me that email - perhaps you should consider the fact that you even have a date - let alone a Valentine - present enough. Twit.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Someone trashed you for that? Weird.

You're right, though--as if you needed some Anon to tell ya THAT :)

I worked as an assoc. buyer for a big retail organization CoughCoughFederatedCough....

They used to send us to corporate training sessions regarding the marketing of seasonal merchandise, and one year, we learned the "whys" of Valentine's Day.

It's a holiday that was completely fabricated by retailers in order to stop the first-quarter cash hemorrhage from which most retailers suffer..

I mean, if you think about it, I guess it makes sense...after all, what did everyone just get in the mail about two weeks prior, at the end of January? Their credit card bills from Christmas, I guess, right? So that, coupled with folks' New Year's Resolution to "Spend Less Frivolously" (see, I dig yer blog, doll!) makes some overpaid bigwig sweat whilst facing stockholders....

Et Voila, Valentine's Day...and the attendant pressure to "prove" you love your significant other by driving corporate retail stock up (huh?)

You know you're right....

Boogie said...

I am really looking forward to Valentine's Day this year, for a variety of reasons. And I think the reason why you hit a nerve is because you're asking questions that some people don't want to answer: if someone cares more about what they were given for a particular holiday than the feeling(s) and/or sentiments behind that gift, then it's pretty clear they don't want to look in the mirror and see what they really are.

As a guy, I look forward to enjoying Valentine's Day with my other half; the more restrictions, requirements and demands put on it, though, the less it remains something fun for two people to share and more it emerges as an obligation to be met. When it's shared it's special, and this actually applies to every day we're together, whether it's the middle of February, the end of July or forever. If it's not shared, then there's no reason to bother in the first place.